When I chose the name for this blog a couple years ago, I couldn’t really predict the recent events of my life. But now that I’m here, it seems appropriate. I’m getting divorced. It still doesn’t feel right to say it, and it looks strange typed out on my laptop. I’m 28, I’ve been married for four years, and I’m getting divorced. I feel like a lot of things have happened to me in the past year that I didn’t really have control over – I’m really angry about those things, but I’m mostly heartbroken. My dreams feel crushed. And now I’m faced with starting over in a way I never expected.
I have my own little apartment that I’m trying to decorate in my own style. I’m making all of my own decisions, trying to build new relationships, and I’m getting a puppy in the summer. We can be our own little family of two, and I’ll have to wait and see how my new life unfolds. I always tell my students that even if you can’t control how other people act, you CAN control how you react. I can’t help the things that have happened to me, but I’m trying to remember that advice for myself. A good life is a choice — one I want to make.
